Dr. Sex consultation. Boyke
Ideal Sex
Dr Boyke good , I'm sorry , to the point , yes docks . Here's my question ! Ideally how many times ( a week ) does a healthy sex it ? My age 30 years , husband 39 tahun.Dulu , when I were newlyweds , we often have sex almost every day . I remember , when my honeymoon and stayed at the hotel , we used to do making love ( ML ) on average three times a day . Then the reduced portion by itself , and then we had sex an average of 2-3 times a week . After the first and second child was born , our sex less and less . Especially after her husband promoted , and increasingly busy , the portion of our sex on average only once a week , even up to two weeks. So far stiap time to have sex , we had never had a problem . My husband is not the kind of guy that selfish and want their own delish . Every time you have sex , my husband is always waiting for me to have an orgasm first. Anyway , we were always together asyik.Pertanyaan me , is the scarcity of our sex is a sign of our waning sex life anyway ? Or , could it be my husband getting bored ? How to encourage husbands to keep doing ML least twice a week ? Thank you .
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The ideal frequency of sex is 1-4 times per week , which usually decreases with increasing duration of marriage and age penuaan.Stres the physical and psychological stress ( eg, fatigue ) may reduce the frequency of sex married couples , especially if sex is done monotonically , without the techniques and new variations . In addition , changes in posture due to obesity , childbirth can also reduce arousal seks.Frekueensi husband to have sex - once a week - still normal for your age and your husband. If you want more , try asking on her husband by the ways and techniques of good communication . I 'm sure the husband would have to comply, as long as it is not dysfunctional . To relieve boredom can try having sex in romantic places ( hotels , for example ) , as well as celebrating honeymoon 2nd , 3rd and so on . For more exciting conjugal relationship before, try techniques , new variations that sex is recreational fun . Ok .________________________________________
inbreeding
Dr will belong Boyke , best wishes . I included a rubric lover Sex Consultation Boyke care dr . I am a private employee working at one company in Jakarta . My age 24 years , a Muslim . I have a problem that I wanted to ask dr Boyke .
1 . Is marriage still has a blood relationship or family is religiously lawful and permissible ?
2 . So , what about the offspring ? Is that to have children later , his son will be handicapped ?
3 . What if I had married the sister of mama , mama exactly kid brother ?
4 . So far , that I know , marriage still has a blood relationship or family always produce children with disabilities. That's 100 % true or not , huh doc?
5 . Is only the first child with disabilities ? What about the second child and so on ?I beg dock , please answer the questions above . Because I was confused , and it seems mas desperate because his wife died while giving birth . So , how ya doc ? Thank you for the reply dr Boyke .
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1 . If the remote consanguinity ( not siblings or cousins ladies ) marriage is allowed .
2 . At the close blood relationship marriages , often derived penyakitpenyakit appear ( eg, thalassemia disease , hermopilia etc. ) .
3 . Should be avoided marrying close blood relations relatives ( cousins still ) . But if " forced " , try consulting with a geneticist .
4 . Not true marriage that still have family ties would produce children with disabilities. Usually if the marriage had to be done , genetic counseling is needed , to avoid the possibility of inherited disease .
5 . The first results are not always child marriage still has family ties defects . The possibility that children with disabilities are usually seen from the possibility that genes carrying hereditary diseases met , resulting in defective offspring . ***
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birds Loyo
Boyke Dear Doctor , doctor , my 43 -year -old man , recently married . My wife is 23 years old . Honestly dock , I was a diabetic. As happened to other diabetics , my bird is rather lackluster . The question is how to keep my bird sturdy back naturally ? For a while , how to satisfy the wifeI rather lackluster despite my bird ? I was still able to have children or not ? Gentlemen asked, how do I connect emotionally so we smoldering sex ?
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First course Pak Budi blood sugar levels should be normalized first . It means you have to go to the doctor internist , new issues are handled erection dysfunction . In some patients if blood sugar levels to normal , back to normal erection capabilities . Perhaps you must take anti- erectile dysfunction drug to improve sexual . I hope you take the time to see a doctor , not taking antihypertensive medication erectile dysfunction buy on the free market . You can still have children . Because it immediately to the doctor to improve the quality of your sex , as well as qualityYour sperm . Especially if your partner is healthy conditions in the womb . To connect emotions that smoldering sex you can not do yourself . Try to discuss with your partner what the desired position , place / atmosphere also affected . Make it a place as comfortable as possible , use perfume , it could make sex more fiery .
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A little liquid
Mr. Boyke Dear Doc , I am a new bride . I have a little problem regarding our sexual relationship . The problem is when I would have sex with the wife , sometimes he was very much out of fluid , but sometimes even dragging . I want to ask , how can the wife pubic fluid will quickly wet when having sex? Sometimes I use baby oil , what is the danger dock ? So does baby oil can also affect pregnancy ? Is baby oil can also kill sperm my dock ?
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Try excitatory stimuli on wife points ( the points erogen ) such as behind the ears , neck , breast , and around the genitals ( especially the clitoris ) . Do it in a relaxed and loving . Romantic situations like this can affect women's desire to have sex , which will impact discharge . When visible liquid has started wetting the pubic wife , it means that his wife is getting aroused . Not dangerous to use baby oil to help smooth , due to lack of fluid that comes out wife . However , Mr. Ahmadi should make efforts stimulation first. When that did not work , alternative use of baby oil can be done . Use baby oil does not interfere with the vagina . Your wife can still get pregnant . However , baby do not be inserted into the vagina , just put the outside only. Safer again using saliva .
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Died Because of Sex
Mr. Boyke good , Mr. Boyke I often hear there orangmeninggal during sex . I also happen to people with heart problems , I am now 45 years of age . While my wife was 30 years old . I was so scared when I suddenly died while having sex with my wife . Why heart can suddenly stop during sex ? How do I fix this ? The extent to which the influence of powerful drugs on the possibility of a heart attack ? How to order sex fuck strategy to reach the top, but avoid a heart attack ? Previously , I thank you .
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Usually people who die of heart disease during sex because sex is not with his wife . Because palpitation increases the level of stress experienced increasing ( fear of sin ) . In addition , heart attacks can also occur due to the use of powerful drugs . Because it is for heart patients do not do not want to regret cheating if later . Sex on heart patients can reach the top , it depends on the severity of heart disease . The important thing is that the wife did sex itself , just slowly , just think sex is an enjoyable entertainment . Do so with love . ***
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Technique and Variations
Dr Boyke Good , Look dock , my normal males , aged 37 years has a weight ( 64 Kg ) and the ideal height ( 168 cm ) as laiknya Indonesian man . While the condition of my wife ( 34 ) classified as obese . When walking , we often likened to pair the number " 10 " . According to doctors , with such conditions , how sex should be ideal for me and my wife ? Is the conventional way , the husband and wife under the above , an ideal and reasonable manner ? What if I wanted another position that is more varied ? So far we are quite harmonious relationship with 2 children that funny . The presence of the children are able to fix our harmony . We also do not have a problem with our sex life . Each time having sex , we usually equally satisfied . With our conditions , if possible for us to have sex with a variety of techniques and ways ?
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Fat wife is not only difficult but also sex position will invite various dangerous diseases ( heart disease, stroke , etc. ) . The most well heck , you ask the wife to go on a diet to make it more streamlined further , and more interesting . Communicate it wisely so as not to offend him . Position and remain still possible sex variation in women who are obese . Basically the woman on the bottom, or the position menungging ( dig position) can still be done . Clearly , your wife should be more passive and more active you . In addition to the position and variation , the actual place or location of any sex can be varied , for example in the carpet , in the bathroom and in other places . Fragrances and light , all can be changed , giving rise to a new atmosphere . So , techniques and sex positions , only one of the means to improve the quality of sexual intercourse , needed kretivitas and innovation of the husband and wife to overcome boredom while having sex .________________________________________
Overflowing passion overflowing
Dear Dr. Boyke , I feel , at the age of 36 years now, my sex drive meluapluap . Though ever before not. Just one or two times each doing making love , that's enough . But now , I want more , while my husband ( 43 years old ) may have tired due to his work in the office , used to have sex 1-2 times per intercourse. With three children ( 1 male , 2 female ) , my husband and I decided enough and did not want more children . So , since last year , I underwent KB injection . And , we now feel free to have sex anytime . The problem is , why is my sex drive overabundance ? Are there any abnormalities in me ? How to encourage husbands to want to have sex more than 1-2 times each act of intercourse ? Frankly , doc , I so often dizzy . Whether it is associated with less sex we are not a result of passion meluapluap terlampiaskan ?
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The use of contraception may liberate concern for pregnant women . Feeling comfortable while having sex , because it is not possible pregnancy can cause sexual arousal . In addition , age 36 years in women , sexual desire is the current is at its peak , so it is not surprising combination 2nd it can trigger your sex drive . Otherwise busy and exhausted husband at work , especially if the added stress on the job can reduce a man 's sex drive . As a result , the wife of a high sex drive is not matched by the husband 's sex drive begins to decline , feeling " guilty " of a wife , " lest I not attractive anymore ! " Moreover , the side effects KB injecting ' usually are overweight , so women often feel he is not attractive because of fat . To overcome the " guilt " that the wife tried to have sex more often and if it does not happen cause anxiety ( usually characterized by headache , irritable and so on ) . For that, try to communicate this to the husband . Invite your husband to better understand your condition . Make free time together , not just sex , but free time to communicate and express their wishes . Ok . ***
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tonic
Boyke to Dear Doctor , I always took time to read the rubric of sex consultation at the doctor Boyke AFP Sunday. Is a powerful drug that is sold in drug stores as well as the roads can affect people having sex ? I 've tried to use strong medicine from China . The result , even make my heart beat faster when faced with my partner . Other strong drug I've ever tried , but it did not influence anything . I did not have sexual disorders . But just want to try it . Are both strong drugs before intercourse ? Is ginseng beverages , such as Kuku Bima and others is best taken before sexual intercourse ? Thank answer:Powerful drugs or known as an aphrodisiac usually contain caffeine and vitamins to make the body become more fit . Some also contain a powerful drug tumbuhtumbuhan roots / herbs skin ( eg ginseng ) which can be blood circulation . Aphrodisiac containing caffeine can make your heart flutter . Actually, no need to take powerful drugs so that sex was great , because with a healthy lifestyle and keep in shape , the ability of sex will remain well preserved . Especially if you yourself are not experiencing sexual disorders . Habit of taking strong drugs before having sex can lead to dependence and a lack of confidence when not using the drug .
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Recurring vaginal discharge
Dear Dr. Boyke ... I am 22 yr old female and have been married for 1 year . When we were engaged , I 've dikuret then use spiral contraceptives for 1 year . Now I no longer wear due to frequent infections spiral and cause vaginal discharge . To this day I often whitish , once the condition is to smell. Obstetricians said that because of the infection . After treatment and recovery , why it appears whitish though not to smell , slight and does not itch . I 've tried many kinds of medicine , but it really does not go away . The question is , why do I often whitish , although do not stink - onion smell exactly - does not itch , and a lot of yellow ? It has been almost 2 years , I continued to discharge , until it was tired of having to back and forth to the doctor . With this condition , can I still have children ? Another complaint was left of my uterus often sick , up until the foot is sore , what ya doc ? What should I do , if the pap smear examination through everything can be seen clearly or still need a lab test ?
answer:Whiteness is a natural thing ( not a disease ) , usually colorless , no itching and no smell , especially in women who are fully fertile ( mid- menstrual cycle ) , horny and pregnant women . However , pathological vaginal discharge caused by the disease occurs because of abnormalities of the reproductive organs ( myoma and erosion ) or infection ( venereal disease and fungal ) , allergic and foreign bodies ( spiral ) . Try to consult this matter to a gynecologist , because the natural mother is white and the disease must be treated according to the cause . If whiteness is cured , it is still possible to have children . Maternal disease there may be an infection in the fallopian tubes ( adnexitis ) .
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Bloody Sex Relationships
Boyke Dear doctor , I have a problem with his wife . We currently have one child aged 1 year and 2 months . All I ask is every time we have sex , my wife always bleed like we used tofirst sexual intercourse after marriage . My wife is currently taking birth control pills . Whether it could be endangering the conditions for health , both my wife and myself?
answer:The presence of blood after sex to watch , because it is one of the signs of abnormalities in the cervix . The most dangerous is the possibility of cervical cancer . Erosion ( sores ) on the cervix , polyp on the cervix can also cause bleeding after intercourse . In addition there is the possibility of an infection of the vagina wife ( vaginitis ) that makes the vaginal walls thin or cervicitis ( cervical infection ) , causing bleeding after intercourse . My advice , do not regard lightly the illness wife . Immediately went to the gynecologist .
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Fingers hiperseks
Doctor , I am a 37 year old widow . I recently remarried to a man beloved that he was already 46 years old . I 've lived alone for 5 years and divorced her husband of more than 6 years . Since getting married until now we have always missed the day -to-day honeymoon with sex games . In a day , when my husband and I do not work , we could have sex two to three times . I truly get sexual satisfaction with my new husband . But docks , lately my husband sex style is rather odd . I say so , partly because the husband is always asking us to " warm up " before intercourse. Well style "warm " it struck me as odd at all . You see , my husband has always wanted to kiss my pussy . Not only that , the husband also licking my pussy lips . Bahkansaya felt fingers husbands put into my vagina . More strangely dock , after inserting his fingers into my vagina , the fingers while the husband smoked whisper that way it can make it feel supernikmat of " warming " . I also want to ask for an explanation physician , whether how " warm " husband do it in the category hiperseks ? I also often meet my husband's request in order to suck his dick . And I always do it with love , so when I suck the penis linger husband , my husband seems to really enjoy . Sehatkah such a way that the doctor ?
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Your husband is not a hiperseks , but a guy who enjoys sex with amazing art of lovemaking . He wants every touch , kiss , sucking enjoyed as much . Fellatio ( oral sex ) are you doing to savor the husband of course because of the oral cavity consists of the lips , tongue , palate , teeth that provide a variety of sensations on husbands penis . The way of healthy classed as essentially oral and genital sex organs are to be kept clean . During the genitals only be used by legitimate spouse ( husband / wife ) were not alternated couples , the sex organs healthy . Have a pleasant sensation of sex !
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Breast and Cheating
I am an avid reader Suara Karya . How nice to read a rubric consulting doctor sex parenting in my favorite newspaper . Now let me ask you a few questions chimed regarding my sexual desire . As a secretary in a service company , almost every day I get a general partner married man . While I do not know man , despite my age is 35 years . I was often invited to the boss out of town , and we had sexual intercourse by consensual . What matters , due to my frequent illicit intercourse with the boss , it turns out the condition of my body , especially my breasts changed shape . nottight again . Is there a cure or a way I can do so that I can form tight breasts again ? I also have a high sexual appetite . Consequently , if the boss is not there , there happens to be another boss who asked me " bobo bobo day " in the apartment or in the hotel , we were having sex by consensual . Is there any medicine I can consume freely and I bought at the drug store , so I could be more sexual appetitecontrolled ? Whether as a result of an abortion I dikuret last year , and now I consume jamu due to its frequency of anti-pregnancy , I was still able to have children if married again at some later date ?
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Given your age who has reached 35 years , the aging process will continue . Women age 35 years , female hormones begin to decline , so the breast firmness is also reduced . Breast creams fasteners will not be much help . Chest exercises that tighten the chest muscles such as lifting objects , can tighten saggy breasts . I was saddened to read of your sex promiscuity , because the addition will increase the risk of cervical cancer , is also an increased risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases . Especially at this time in Indonesia HIV & AIDS disease that 's incurablevery high increase . My advice , get married soon so you avoid the full risk -free life . Action curettage , drink herbal laxative ( herbal anti-pregnancy ) can certainly damage your reproductive organs so that it becomes difficult to conceive later . ***
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Want Satisfied Together
Dear Dr Boyke , One thing I like most about the behavior of my partner ( husband ) when having sex is my husband loves licking the neck . That way , I usually quickly aroused . Moreover , if the husband's hands began nosy over there and to let , I often feel kelenjotan . The problem , in this condition , my husband often less responsive . There is the impression my husband often too mengulurulur time . In fact , I wanted , if it is so, the husband straight into the " main problem " . As a result , I often orgasm , satisfaction reached first . While her husband still looked calm . When her husband started lusting and chasing achieve satisfaction , I am already exhausted . Boyke doctor , if I had the disorder , too quickly aroused ? How do I ask my husband, so when having sex , we can together achieve satisfaction ?
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Fore play ( game introduction ) by licking and kissing the neck is a natural thing because the neck is a point erogen ( excitatory sensitive areas ) . In some women are easily aroused , stimulation of these points has been able to orgasm without having to make the process of intercourse . Length of fore play is usually about 15 minutes , if it was more than 15 minutes instead of stalling - ngulur time , but provides an opportunity for the whole point erogen get enough stimulation . No need to worry if you reach orgasm first, because it is a normal thing . Indeed , some couples want the orgasms achieved together so sex achieve more "beautiful " . Maybe if you want that , you can motioned that you 've almost reached orgasm , so that the husband can immediately penetrate the penis . Through a good communication without feeling shame , you could ask the husband , so that you can achieve mutual satisfaction . I 'm sure her husband would be happy to do it , sex is not aiming for mutual satisfaction ?
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Infinity satisfaction
Dr Boyke , I agree with you that sex is something that is fun . Unfortunately , I realized this recently when my husband make changes during intercourse . In fact , we are almost ten years old married with two children . My age is now 31 years old , and her husband ( 40 years old ) . So far we have sex as a matter of routine . Laiknya As a wife , I have to serve her husband , including the ends meet , have sex . Indeed sometimes I feel satisfied , but not satisfied - very satisfied as I experienced when having intercourse, lately . Began when my husband suddenly took home the pornographic images . Frankly , when the husband showed these pictures , I became disgusted and fed up . Inevitably , when the husband took to do the same as in picture porn , having sex with a variety of styles and position , I immediately reject it outright . But my husband quite basic type that philandering , finally husband's request , I meet too . At first , I felt uncomfortable and stiff , but I finally feel good too . In fact I quite enjoy it becauseinfinite satisfactions that we experience every time you have sex . My question is, does having sex with a variety of styles and lawful position ? The problem , so far I had the notion that sex should be done in a dignified manner .
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Various positions and variations are needed in sex, so sex was not a" Obligation " or " routine tasks " mere . Modeled various positions and variations of pornographic images or movies blue is fine , as long as the couple made between legitimate . Perform a variety of positions is encouraged by Islam , surah Al - Baqarah verse 223 , states that " Your wife is your field , treat it as you wish. " That is , the position and recommended the origin of sex variations in accordance with the norms of religion ( not having anal sex or sex during menstruation ) . That sex must be mannered is fine , but if you do any sex , not sexbe boring ? Husband initiative to start experimenting with different positions admirable . At the very least , you had already started to feel the satisfactions infinite earlier . Ok . ***
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Mr. Dr. Boyke , Since last few months I suffered from premature ejaculation . If we had sex , just a few minutes my wife had an orgasm but nothing yet . Because it was often angry angry wife and headaches . I myself was so embarrassed . Doctors need to know every day I am working hard on the field . Go early on a motorbike and returned home late at night and very tired bodies . Some colleagues suggested me to eat nutritious foods and supplements for men who can augment sexual desire , especially in endurance during intercourse with his wife . What should I do so that I can re- run the function pride as husband and wife?
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Behavior wife often angry because unsatisfied sexual desire is understandable . But such attitudes often worsen the situation and the husband would normally be caused by stress and premature ejaculation during intercourse shame . Membugarkan body , eat a nutritious diet , managing stress properly is an attempt to correct premature ejaculation . But understanding wife badly needed , particularly to improve self-esteem husband during intercourse . Try to have sex without being haunted with anxiety , more relax , think sex is a game , doing kegel exercises ( open and closed rectal ) as often as possible . By trying techniques and variations will make you not ejaculate too quickly . If that does not help , contact your doctor to give medications that can help hold ejaculation
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Cheating wife
Dr Boyke Excellency, I Sudirman aged 35 years and now works as a consultant at a private institution of higher education in Jakarta . My work makes it possible to deal directly with many people every day , especially once the student the pretty ones . I have a sex problem . Since the last few years I like to imagine my wife having an affair with his boss . With the road so , I then imagine how masturbation and intercourse with men affair with the wife of the spirit . Sometimes I also can imagine how delighted screwed - college student I've encountered . By the way so I can get satisfaction , then sleep soundly . Conversely , if it is normal to have sex with his wife ,I can not enjoy it anymore . Wife never even angry because my genitals do not function normally , though it was pursued in various ways . That's how I feel after I hold a lot of friends that isformasi my wife " no messing " with his boss . They are often out of town when I was also looking into the task area . What should I do so that I can return to normal sex
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With deviant sexual fantasies imagined affair with someone else 's wife or fantasize intercourse with student - student demonstrate that you meet your sex life with the wife is not satisfactory . Fantasy sex is often a safety valve if the couple has problems in sexual life . Your self-esteem was falling when erectile dysfunction is caused outrage wife . The news was not clear about the behavior of a woman who often " go out " with his boss cause your mind is getting screwed and the " reply " it was as if you screwed pretty student - student on campus . My advice , try to communicate directly gossip about your wife on wife , then treat erectile dysfunction you are experiencing with the doctor away . Hopefully both these actions make your sex life " normal " again .
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anal sex
Boyke Dear Doctor , I am a housewife who just gave birth a year ago . Since giving birth husband often complains problem my sexual services . Husband said he could not get pleasure again like when I have not given birth . Surprisingly , even asked my husband serve the needs of sexual deviant manner , that is no longer using the vagina , but anal . Frankly, I am tormented treated so, otherwise the husband actually quite enjoyed it . Is sex the way as it is not dangerous ? Is the way it does not bother me later anal organ ? I am very worried about the last year has given the husband only want to have sex with me like that .
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Through anal sex can transmit a variety of diseases , especially hepatitis C and other diseases . Because anal vaginal wall is not as thick as it prepared for intercourse . Many blood vessels around the anus and the thinner walls - as an extension of the colon - rectum torn skin easier and cause severe bleeding . Try to do Kegel exercises or gymnastics sex so that your vaginal muscles become tighter and firmer than your anal muscle tone . I think the husband will return like vaginal sex . ***
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Hymen surgery
Boyke Dear Dr. , I am a private employee who is about to marry . However , lately I am haunted by the fear that a husband will later regret to marry me , because I actually have notvirgin again . First , when courting the first time, I was never a mistake to have sex with my boyfriend . I fear , if the husband later realized I was not a virgin disappointed he will leave me . And now my age is 32 years . According to my doctor if the condition was not a virgin anymore can be improved through surgery ? I often hear from some friends that I have experienced such conditions can be helped . If the information is correct , on Which hospital or doctor to whom I can contact him ? Please Dr Boyke willing to help me . For the help I thank you .
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Hymen surgery ( himenoplasti ) is a re- action to spruce up the torn hymen . Usually made new cuts and stitched back . Such actions usually using only local anesthetic and the patient usually does not need to stay . The problem is these actions usually performed in cases of rupturehymen due to rape or accident , so to do the actions required himenoplasti presence of parents , as well as permission to take action . Actually your future husband should be able to understand that it could be due to the ignorance of a woman doing such mistakes that you experienced . After all, there are many men who is not a virgin when she got married . For information about the hymen surgery , try contacting clinics content in Jakarta .________________________________________
Circumcision and Small Penis
Boyke Dear Dr. , I am a foreigner from Batam is about to be married to a woman who never married . Through Dr. Boyke me please help advice or instructions concerning my problem asfollows : Under an agreement with the family of my future wife , married before I had circumcised first . Is there a risk for me if only I would not circumcised and what are the benefits forme if circumcised ? Dr Boyke need to know if I was circumcised sematamata finally rejected because of shame , considering my age is 33 years , while I know that Indonesian men are generally circumcised at the age of the children . According to the story of my colleagues , male citizens if a small penis size can not be happy wife someday . Though I 'd love my wife happy , but my penis size is small . If you 're kajung ( standing / upright ) the maximum size is only about 10 cm . According to Dr. Boyke whether penis size form one of the key wife happy ? Is there a tool that can help me raise and lengthen the shape and size of my penis ?
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Circumcision is actually aimed at the cleanliness of the penis . With the accumulated smegma circumcised penis head will be lost and will certainly be cleaner . Circumcision alone can reduce the risk of penile cancer and lower the risk of smegma place as a source of sexually transmitted diseases . Penis size does not determine sexual satisfaction , because the G - Spot , which is the center of the female orgasm in one third of the vagina , the penis increases with size less than 10 cm can achieve it . Anyway marital harmony is not solely determined by sex , communication , tolerance and utilization of spare time with family is more important .________________________________________
Premarital Check - Up
Boyke Dear doctor , I am an employee at a private bank . Soon to get married with my girlfriend , a widower Caucasians from Los Angeles , United States . My question is, why would any couples marriage to the level of highly advisable to check their health to a doctor ? In fact I was healthy , my future husband , too. We also encourage our families health check to the doctor . If we fulfill these recommendations , what will be examined by a doctor ? Is it about virginity ? Frankly I had ever had sex with my first boyfriend first . And it's already been pointed out by my future husband is Caucasian . It turns out prospective husband said he was happy with the honesty . He said he wanted to be my husband , not based on a matter of virginity or not , but more because they want married to Indonesian women . My husband also declared healthy and not suffering from infectious diseases . I wonder , maybe the suggestion medical examinations for prospective wedding couples only bridge to fill the pockets of extortion at the agency that handles the affairs itu.
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Premarital check-up is recommended for all couples getting married . Not the hymen is examined , it is likely transmitted diseases or lowered . Especially when your husband is a " bule " . Some dangerous venereal disease , especially HIV , clamidia , HSV II will be examined through laboratory , because in addition can also be transmitted to the partner cause disability in the fetus , if the female partner is pregnant . Especially if you are infected with HIV / AIDS , which until now there is no cure and off . Premarital examinations usually include general health examinations coupled with reproductive health . Each hospital usually gives you the option of package simple to complete . Do not think negatively about premarital check-up , because it was for the purposes of couples getting married , so that even if the results are less satisfactory , doctors provide the best solution option . ***________________________________________
Sex experiment
Dear Dr. Boyke As a husband who has foster home for 10 years with two children , lately I love to do experiments in intercourse . Lastly, I liked to have sex once in a standing position . That way , I feel more comfortable and in control to be able to survive lama.Masalahnya , my wife was more like sitting on top position ( face down ) . Because , in this position , he was able to play an active role in the penetration of set points as desired sensitive vagina . Therefore , every time you have sex , we used to stand and apply the style intercourse with the conventional position ( under my wife above ) , or on the contrary , my wife under the above . My question, is having sex with the normal standing position ? How Similarly, various other positions , such as I have ever seen in pornographic images ?
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Rauf at Tanjung Priok Hanafi position and variation by sex couples to overcome boredom and boredom in sex. Standing position by couples ( married couples ) is one of the normal position . Usually are more male partners can hold his ejaculation . In some men with a petite woman , a man and a woman assume the position known as the " monkey climbing coconut " . In the wife's position at the top (female superior ) , wife reach orgasm more easily arena - as I 've explained - point G - spot ( the point of orgasm in women ) are more easily aroused by the penis . Perform a variety of positions such as those in porn is okay , as long as not detrimental to health and adopted norms such as sex during menstruation or anal sex .________________________________________
difficult Orgasm
Dr Boyke dear ... I may include a wife who are less fortunate in our sex life . Frankly dock , I rarely experience the satisfaction every time engage in sexual intercourse with her husband . This is because of the attitude of my husband , who for selfish or indeed whether any abnormalities , each time having sex , he finished fast . I have not anything , or just starting to " heat " , the husband was immediately " step on the gas " and impressed in a hurry . Usually once satisfied , my husband went to bed snoring . Not infrequently , even right back to me . This kind of thing has been going on for years , and usually I can only see the stunned husband already asleep . As a result , I often do masturbation . Luckily, I was quite amused by the presence of three daughters are beautiful . Their presence makes me still love my husband . However, when considering our sex life , I am so sad and often cranky yourself . How does this dock ? Actually I wanted to communicate with my husband , but I was shy and afraid to offend him . Is not not deserve a wife sue , let alone demanding about the " one " is it? Indeed , so far as we live well , including the husband who respected and successful in a career in a state-owned company with a high enough position anyway .
answer:Mariana in Cililitan , Ethics sex that only selfishness may reduce the quality of sex and harmony . Supposedly , both husband and wife are able to provide adequate sexual stimulation so that the partner satisfied . A woman takes much longer orgasms than men . Therefore , the stimuli in the area erogen ( sensitive excitatory ) must be given to the wife before orgasm . At that moment, the right was penile penetration , making orgasm and ejaculation can be achieved together . Having achieved orgasm , husband and wife are continuing stimulation and hugging each other , mutual pleasure to thank you for granted . That is a common sexual ethics . Actually, to communicate about sex to their husbands, it's easy to think that a husband during sexual intercourse aims for mutual satisfaction . No need to fear , say so at the right time ( in bed ) and the proper way ( with soft words , without blaming ) . ***________________________________________
Less Sperm Count
Boyke doctor , since married two years ago , we have also endowed offspring . After consulting with the doctor , my wife otherwise normal and healthy . The problem is with me , the sperm count is below the average . What is the purpose of this information docks ? In fact , I have had serious illnesses such as stroke or heart . If you look at the appearance of any man I would not think I have the sperm is below the average , because my body looks proportionate and fit ? Why sperm can someone below average? If the condition is so , what should I do dock ? Is there a quick and precise way to improve the quality and quantity of sperm ? Is this problem can be overcome with certain foods or certain sports . Up to what amount of sperm that can be said on the average . How do I know if my sperm has increased ? When conditions are above average , what I have to do it again so my wife pregnant fast . Thank you very much for the information .
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The ability of sperm to fertilize the egg to conceive depends on the number and quality of sperm . Usually the doctor will assess the volume of semen ( normal 2-5 ml ) , sperm count ( minimum 20-40 million / ml ) , sperm movement ( at least 60 percent must be able to move straight and fast ) and normal sperm forms which account for about 80 percent . Cause less sperm count can be caused by fatigue , lack of sleep , obesity or smoking and drinking, as well as prolonged stress . The disruption of the hormone testosterone , a varicocele ( of the veins in the testicles) , infection ( eg, venereal disease ) , chromosomal abnormalities can cause sperm counts less . Exercise regularly , eat foods that contain lots of zinc ( seafood , eggplant ) , vitamin E ( bean sprouts ) can help increase sperm count . But in addition to having a healthy life , try to consult with a specialist andrology in order to know the cause and treated according to the cause . To know sperm is growing in number usually after 3-6 months of treatment the doctor will recheck sperm analysis , and compared the results with before treatment . If the number and quality of sperm is fine, as long as there is no disruption of reproductive health on the wife , usually easy going pregnancy .________________________________________
Adam's apple and Erectile Dysfunction
Recommend Boyke Dear doctor my name Aprianto , 22 -year -old man . Doc I have a problem with the Adam's apple , which is not as prominent as other male friends . In fact , my skinny body . From the info I've heard from friends , a man who is not his Adam's apple bobbed like me , her sex skills are not strong . He said I have a tendency to be a woman . Is that info correct ? What should I do to make my neck berjakun like most men . Actually it is the function of the Adam's apple ? Do I need surgery to get Adam's apple ? Treatment what I should do ... dock ? Doc , my friend said he never complained lately often experience difficulty in sexual intercourse with his wife . Is it due to complaints they experienced stress due to workload so much . Because I do not understand about sex , I say to diligently exercise to increase stamina . The effort he has done , but it really does not effect you? Is there any other way dock ? I see his face no longer sumringah as first - first ....
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Adam's apple growth is associated with the development of secondary sex with men, in addition to changes in the voice , growth of hair / mustache and a wet dream at the time of puberty . Adam's apple growth was not associated with sex skills . Clearly , Adam's apple was definitely grow just might not be too obtrusive . As well as the mustache does not always every man bushy growth . Adam's apple is actually just a function associated with signs of secondary sex only, no special function . So no need to worry , as long as your erectile function and ejaculation is normal , it will go fine . Regarding your friend , he seems to have erectile dysfunction , where one cause is stress and fatigue . Besides piling workload resulting in fatigue , prolonged stress also arise . Especially if he's not in the added exercise , body fat , the habit of smoking and drinking, then all these factors worsen erection capability . Your suggestion that he had the right exercise , because a fit body will be fit to make his sex . However , if the stress factor is not resolved , it will still be going on erectile dysfunction . My advice , try to encourage her to consult a sex consultant for treatment , because in addition to stress , some illnesses such as sugar ( diabetes mellitus ) , high blood pressure , blood vessel disorders , neurological disorders , and hormonal disorders can also cause erectile dysfunction . ***________________________________________
Tips to Tighten Vagina Muscles
Dear Doctor Boyke .... Doc , I am a housewife with three children are still small , each aged 8 years , 6 years and 4 years . I had the pleasure to have a baby because they are cute , adorable , and articulate . Their presence became a friend who is not boring while waiting for her husband came home from work . But one thing that worries me now is the form of my vagina seems to have no longer sexy , and therefore taste sensation while making love ( ML ) with husband so much reduced . I was difficult to reach orgasm . Finally I so do not get too excited making out with her husband . I actually find it more fun and joking met with the children . Doc, what should I do to make my vagina could form the same way again ? Do I have to perform vaginal surgery to " shrink " again ? Is there another way , without the need to perform surgery ? Doc , I often hear that said advertising products can tighten saggy vagina that is , whether the claim is true ? Is the vagina will become loose if we do not take corrective action ? Is my case is common on other women who has given birth to 4 children ? Is this improvement effort is not too late , considering my age is 39 years old ?
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Ads improve the shape of the vagina through creams can not be verified . It is better to follow the exercises of the pelvic muscles during childbirth and after childbirth . It has been proven to restore vaginal muscle tone . In general, women who deliver vaginally vagina changes . So , this is a general thing . 've Researched that Kegel exercises can restore lost sensation after childbirth .________________________________________
Cigarette smoke Inhibitory Pregnancy
Boyke doctor .... My 29 -year -old woman . In the past year , my angst-ridden because of not getting pregnant after 3 years of marriage age . Frankly , I was a career woman with a fairly high position in a company and are also heavy smokers . I started smoking when I was attending college and getting worse until today . I could spend a day 3 packs of cigarettes a mild type . Our sexual activity was no problem , even arguably quite " hot " because we do it on average 3 times a week with the outstanding quality of the relationship . That is, we were both always get to the top . However , as a married couple , we would also like to have children . Is infertility is caused by my habit like smoking ? Or whether , because of the husband who also like to smoke ? Do I really need to quit smoking or reduce it enough ? Whether the husband should also stop smoking ? If not know , what is the substance contained in cigarettes , specifically that cause infertility ? Besides quitting smoking , what should I do so that I can get pregnant ? Are there special vitamins to boost my fertility or husband ? Experience of many other couples who are smokers , whether quitting smoking can actually improve one's fertility rate ?
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It's clear statement written in the dangers of smoking on cigarette packs and advertising that cigarettes can cause cancer , impotence and infertility . Therefore if you want to get pregnant , both husband and wife should quit smoking . Husbands who smoke secondhand smoke can make his wife pregnant and cause trouble , even if the woman can get pregnant , the fetus in the womb will experience stunted growth . Substances contained in cigarettes are harmful to the body is nicotine , tar , gases CO and hundreds of other harmful substances . Some experts even assuming a smoker with nasal breathing exhaust put on the car is turned on . Besides quitting smoking , eating a nutritious diet, exercise , stress memanaj there , can improve fertility husband and wife . ***________________________________________
Love and Virginity
Boyke warm greetings to the doctor ... I am 29 years old male . Within 6 months I 'll get married again . I intend bride examination related to the reproductive organs . Do I also need to do the same thing ? If so , what checks should I live ? Doc, a question may be a bit " odd " right? Is virginity can only be proven through blood that comes out when you first have sex ? If there is no blood , there are other traits that indicate my life partner was a virgin ? Said a friend , who is still dragging the vagina signifies concerned woman is a virgin , right? Without intending not believe with my wife , I just want to know the things that I will face soon . Thank you very much , Doc ...
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Is a positive thing for you and your future wife to do pre - marital check-up . This examination can anticipate things that are not desirable in children who were born later or on the health of the couple. A husband who suffered from syphilis , in addition to transmitting the disease to your partner can also interfere with the fetus in the womb mate . Fetus will eventually experience a disability or miscarriage . Usually check up includes laboratory examination of reproductive organs and blood . Only 65 % of women experience vaginal bleeding at first intercourse , while 35 % did not bleed because the hymen may rupture in a blood vessel do not exist , or because it has an elastic hymen . The characteristics of a person is a virgin can only be seen by a doctor of her hymen . The actual meaning of a marriage does not depend on the hymen , but the love for the candidate 's wife or vice versa . If you really love the bride , you must be willing to accept your partner the way they are. Drag the vagina does not determine whether or not a woman is a virgin or not . Ok, good hold marriage . ***________________________________________
Sex During Pregnancy
Boyke good doctor , Doc , my wife was pregnant . I am so grateful that we 've been waiting since two years ago . But the thing is , I was among those who avid sex . Since getting married , we always have sex every day , even if only briefly . My wife age is now 24 years old , while I was 30 years old . My wife was pregnant 2 months . Wife's pregnancy obviously we welcome them happy because we will have a baby the fruit of love between us . The question , doc : How safe sex so that the content is not compromised my wife ? The ideal frequency relate during my wife's pregnancy , how many times a week ? Is it true that , when the content of 8-9 months of age , sexual activity should be increased ? What abstinence should not be violated during intercourse so that my wife's pregnancy was not disturbed ? For the answer , before I thank you . Create doctor Boyke , success , Doc !
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Actually, sex during pregnancy is fine , as long as the state of maternal and fetal health. Which can determine a healthy fetus and mother are doctors or midwives who care for pregnant women . The position of safe sex is the woman on top (female superior ) or the guy from behind ( dog position) . A healthy sex 1-4 times per week , both women are pregnant or not . Sex at the age of 8-9 months into the womb does not need to be improved . Perform 1-4 times per week is healthy enough . Restrictions that prohibited sexual intercourse during pregnancy is applicable too rough , for example , using sex aids are inserted into the vagina , and others. It should not be done to avoid injury in the vagina and inveksi miscarriage on baby. Ok
